"Infidelity is simply defined as the breaking of trust and the keeping of secrets in an intimate partnership." -Rob Weiss, MSW


Advice For Women Who Love Sex Addicts

Let’s be honest. When you love an addict, life can be pretty hard. When you love a sex addict, life may be exponentially hard. Your mother and your friends may tell you to dump him, and nobody seems to understand. You’ve been lied to, your heart is broken and you worry that you’ll never be able to trust again. You feel a little like Karen in “Californication.” You love this man and he loves you; the problem is that he doesn’t know how. (more…)

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Confess Infidelity To Save Your Marriage?

When you commit a marital infraction, you are betraying the trust of your spouse and breaking the vows you made at your wedding ceremony. It’s a big deal, and it means that you are faced with a choice: to tell or to keep it a secret. There are convincing arguments to be made for each choice, which depend upon your (more…)

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Keeping Up With The Sex And Love Lexicon – “Sexicon”

The information age has brought rapid and drastic change to, well, just about everything. Some of the most dizzying changes have occurred with language, as new terms appear and spread with astonishing speed. The world of interpersonal relationships has also evolved quickly, as the Internet has spawned entirely new ways to socialize, meet people, and even conduct illicit affairs. And, of course, the effects of the digital age on love and language together have created (more…)

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Men and Women See Cheating Differently

Men and Women See Cheating DifferentlyTo cheat on a spouse or partner can have devastating consequences. It may mean the end of the relationship. How we define cheating, however, varies from person to person, and as researchers have found out, also between men and women. At one time, cheating was considered to be a physical act. Today we have other ways to commit infidelity, including emotional attachments to another person. Which is worse? Emotional infidelity or sex without any emotional attachment? (more…)

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Is Cybersex Grounds for Divorce?

Is Cybersex Grounds for Divorce?Around half of all marriages in the United Stated end in divorce, and some reports estimate that the growing phenomenon of cyber infidelity now plays a role in nearly one-third of divorce cases. But does cybersex have official legal standing, and can it be used as grounds for divorce?

Currently, it depends in whom you ask. The courts in Canada, for example, have ruled that cyber-infidelity, if it is entirely virtual and does not include real life sexual encounters, does not meet the legal definition of adultery and cannot be used as grounds for an immediate divorce. Canadians who want to divorce a partner who has had a virtual affair need to live apart from their partner for one year before they will be granted a legal divorce. (more…)

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Online Affairs Are Emotional Affairs

Online Affairs Are Emotional AffairsMany social network users may consider online flirting and chatting to be innocent, but some experts say that online flings can be just as damaging as a sexual dalliance. Just as with affairs conducted in person, online cheating can be a slippery slope.

In an article appearing in CBS Houston, psychotherapist Dr. Mary Jo Rapini argues that online cheating fits into the category known as an emotional affair. While some experts have distinguished online cheating from emotional cheating, Dr. Rapini says that it shares the same characteristics. (more…)

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Online Cheating: A Slippery Slope

 Online Cheating: A Slippery SlopeThe Internet has become a convenient and popular way to connect with others. Whether communicating through social media or connecting in a comment thread, online conversations are, in some ways, replacing face-to-face communication. Likewise, the use of cell phones has expanded to frequent texting, now widely used to have a conversation.

An article posted in ACPI CAIT asks the question: when does connecting online with another person become cheating? Even if there is not physical contact, is it cheating to send someone a flirty text message? What about having a private joke with someone on social media? (more…)

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Preventing Cyber Cheating

Preventing Cyber CheatingThe Internet has changed how we shop, plan vacations and converse. There is convenience experienced at every turn, with a full library of information accessible from mobile devices. Connecting with friends is easier than it’s ever been, as long as “connecting” is defined as exchanging text messages and viewing Snapchat.

The Internet is also changing how individuals get into extra-marital relationships. In a new realm in which cheating is possible without ever making physical contact, many cyber-cheaters are wrecking a marriage for the excitement of a flirtatious text string. (more…)

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The Cheater’s Voice

The Cheater's VoiceTelephones are used for everything from looking up a full library’s worth of information to hearing turn-by-turn directions to a new friend’s house. Text messaging allows for non-stop access to conversations and the convenient sharing of photos.

Telephones can also be used for not-so-innocent activities, such as bullying a classmate or sending nude or near-nude photos to a friend. They can also provide an easy to way to keep in touch with an extra-marital affair when a spouse is not within earshot. (more…)

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What Type of Cheating Is Worse? Men, Women Disagree

What Type of Cheating Is Worse? Men, Women DisagreeThe widespread use of mobile devices and laptop computers, along with the popularity of social networking for forming new connections, have led to new opportunities for social relationships. Individuals can find high school sweethearts and start up a conversation within minutes, whereas a decade ago such a connection may have required a lengthy search or attendance at a reunion. (more…)

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