No relationship is immune to the specter of infidelity. Even those that form in high school or college are vulnerable. Although you’re young, that doesn’t mean you don’t take your relationship commitments seriously. Cheating in a college relationship can be just as devastating as infidelity at any age. Still, students are a unique demographic with special considerations, and it is important to consider them.
Cheating is one of the most hurtful things a partner can do in a relationship. To share physical, emotional or both types of connections with another person is a betrayal and one that is very difficult to come back from. Can marriages really survive infidelity? They can and they do. Many people assume cheating would be a deal-breaker until it actually happens. Getting past it isn’t easy, but if you love your spouse and see hope for a future, you can find your way back to a real and trusting relationship.
Here are the ways marriages can survive infidelity. (more…)
My experience with sex addiction is inextricably intertwined with the Internet. While it’s possible that I might have learned to act out in the same ways I learned to act out on the Internet even if the Internet never existed, I doubt it. Were it not for online chat rooms, webcam sites, social media sites and online dating sites, I truly believe that my underlying issues with sex, love and relationship addiction would have remained buried beneath the other addiction problems I’d been dealing with for more than two decades.
Whoever coined the phrase “once a cheater, always a cheater” may not have known just how right she or he was. People who cheat once are likely to cheat again, but it may be far more than just a bad habit.
According to a new Australian study from the University of Queensland, certain people may have a genetic profile that makes them more likely to cheat on a romantic partner.
Finding out that your husband has betrayed you is a terrible feeling. Your trust, not to mention your marriage vows, has been violated. And if he has done it more than once, you might wonder what you have done wrong. Is it your fault that he strays? Or is there something else going on? You may have heard about sex addiction, and infidelity as an addiction is a popular idea.
Whether your husband has a sex addiction or not is for an expert to decide, but if you’re worried about it, here’s some information to help you figure out what to do next.
Is sexual activity the defining feature of an affair, or can you cheat on your partner even when no sex is involved? And no sexual activity means none at all: no in-person sex, phone sex, Internet sex, explicit text messages or anything else. Can an emotional connection with someone other than your partner become so intense and involving that it qualifies as a violation of your relationship?
Emotional affairs can be a true gray area, much more so than the “gray areas” involved in Internet infidelity. It’s a question of degrees, and determining whether there is a level of emotional attachment with another person can impact your marriage or relationship. (more…)
Statistics for sex addiction are hard to come by for a number of reasons. Some experts still deny the existence of sex addiction, also known as hypersexual disorder. Diagnosing this condition isn’t easy and, of course, it is likely that a high percentage of people struggling with it are too ashamed to ask for help. In spite of the shaky statistics, many experts who work with sex addicts agree that the problem is on the rise, and many attribute the near epidemic levels of sex addiction to (more…)
Cheating in a relationship can be devastating. Some couples manage to work through it, while others just can’t continue. What the offended partner is always left wondering, regardless of whether the relationship survives, is why? Why does anyone cheat in a relationship? Sometimes even the cheater isn’t sure. In some cases it may be a genuine case of sex addiction — a compulsive urge to engage in inappropriate sexual relationships — but in others the causes are not so clinical. (more…)
Narcissism is a personality characteristic that includes feelings of self-absorption, entitlement, grandiosity and often a willingness to exploit others for one’s own gain. People high in narcissism tend to be low in empathy. Narcissists tend to revel in praise and admiration, but often react badly to criticism. A narcissist may be charming and charismatic, and may even be good at feigning humility, but an arrogant point of view is more authentic to his/her character.
It probably isn’t a surprise to learn that clinicians, not just the general public, recognize that a large number of sex addicts behave in fairly narcissist ways. What may be surprising, however, is (more…)
By Virginia Gilbert, MFT
You didn’t mean for it to happen. And it’s not just about sex. The emotional connection between you is potent, the kind of intimacy you’ve been craving your entire life. The only thing coming between you and your soul mate is that someone else thinks he’s her soul mate, too — his wife.
He assures you he’s leaving her. He’s just waiting for the right time. He needs to deal with some financial matters, or get his youngest into college, or see her through her father’s illness. (more…)