If you are cheating on your spouse or partner, you may think your love affair just “happened” and that you fell insanely in love with the person of your dreams “by accident.” A marriage and divorce therapist might see it differently. This mental health professional – who has seen extramarital affairs many times before – may think of yours as just a predictable part of a personal crisis moment in your life. (more…)
Are You Married? In A Committed Relationship? If so, Avoid Friendships with the Opposite Sex, Psychologist Says
Oprah calls him one of the best psychotherapists in the world.
So why does M. Gary Neuman take the radical – and some would say old-fashioned view – that people in committed relationships should avoid all friendships with the opposite sex?
Because they present competition to your partner, Neuman explains in his book, Emotional Infidelity. (more…)
Certain languages have different words for two different kinds of love. Intensely romantic love – the kind people describe as “getting hit over the head by a ton of bricks” – goes by a different word than the kind of love that exists between two people who have been married for years. One kind can be obsessive and all-consuming, while the second can feel comfortable, familiar and caring. (more…)
Jesse James had his own TV show and was known for making customized motorcycles before he married superstar Sandra Bullock. In 2010, he publicly apologized to her after rumors of his infidelity caused a media frenzy. Fans of Bullock could not understand why he would cheat on a beautiful, Academy Award-winning actress for a tattoo model. (more…)
Online romance happens all the time, and sometimes it ends in a storybook marriage. However, it’s just as likely to end in “catfish.” Before you convince yourself that you have met the person of your dreams or that your partner is going to leave you for someone online, you might want to consider “catfish.” (more…)
Psychologists traditionally focus on the mother/child relationships and mostly ignore fathers, especially the father/daughter relationship. However, new research is increasingly concluding that fathers greatly influence their daughter’s self-esteem, interpersonal relationships, gender roles, mental and emotional health, and achievements in academics and career. What’s more surprising is that a father has a deeper influence on his daughter’s future relationship with men than does her mother. (more…)
Oxytocin is a hormone made of amino acids that is regularly produced in mammals. It has been shown to play a part in sexual interactions and in childbirth. Oxytocin is produced in the pituitary gland and, from there, travels to the reproductive organs. It is thought that oxytocin encourages the mother-child bond immediately after birth, as well as forces the uterus to shrink back to normal size and the breasts to begin delivering milk after the baby is born. (more…)
The Internet has clearly changed the way we meet people, and it’s definitely changed the way people cheat. But has our romantic image of love also been shifted by the Internet? Has early exposure to explicit images and a steady diet of pornography skewed young peoples’ expectations about sex and romance? And with people hooking up using smart phone apps that can geo-locate a perfect match in seconds (and face it, often with someone who is already spoken for), we could make the argument that the Internet has killed Cupid.
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Sex and drugs have always gone hand in hand, none more so than methamphetamine (followed closely by cocaine, GHB, Ecstasy and other party drugs). For some, meth unleashes the uninhibited, even violent and animalistic, desires within. Sex-crazed and insatiable, users may act out their wildest fantasies and get into situations they never imagined they would, often without fear or awareness of the potential consequences.
All of this mind-bending, drug-fueled sex might be fine – until you find out it’s your spouse or partner. If they stop wanting to have sex with you, instead turning to Internet porn, prostitutes, “friend finder” apps or other sources, or bring home an STD, a little “recreational” meth use may not seem so harmless after all. (more…)
The “Down Low,” also known as “the DL,” is a term that originated in the African American community, referring to a subculture of black men who publicly identify as heterosexual but secretly have sex with men. The term has expanded in recent years to include males of other ethnicities who outwardly live a masculine, heterosexual life but privately have sex with other guys. Many of these individuals date and marry women, limiting their male on male encounters to bathhouses, sex clubs, public parks and restrooms, and quick hookups with guys met on the Internet or using smartphone hookup apps. (more…)