Finding out that your husband has betrayed you is a terrible feeling. Your trust, not to mention your marriage vows, has been violated. And if he has done it more than once, you might wonder what you have done wrong. Is it your fault that he strays? Or is there something else going on? You may have heard about sex addiction, and infidelity as an addiction is a popular idea.
Whether your husband has a sex addiction or not is for an expert to decide, but if you’re worried about it, here’s some information to help you figure out what to do next.
What Is Sex Addiction?
Sex addiction goes by many different names: sexual compulsive behavior, sexual disorder, hypersexuality or sexual dependence, among others. Experts still disagree on whether it is a true psychological disorder or addiction, but many agree that it is possible to become dangerously obsessed with sexual behaviors and attitudes.
Contrary to what you might think, a sex addiction does not necessarily mean that someone has sex all the time. It can take a number of different forms:
- Obsession with masturbation
- Compulsive use of pornography
- Sexting addiction or online sexual encounters
- Sex with multiple partners
- Using prostitutes
- Constant inappropriate sexual comments or jokes
- Obsession with sex paraphernalia
- Cheating, social media addiction and online affairs
When Is Cheating A Sex Addiction?
Often cheating is just cheating. Infidelity is often the result of multiple personal factors that vary from one relationship to another. It may be that your spouse has low self-esteem and needs outside validation. Maybe he feels unsatisfied physically or emotionally. It may just be that he is selfish and has considered his own needs without thinking about yours.
Sexual addiction and infidelity don’t always go together, but there are signs that your husband might actually have a compulsion when it comes to sex. Sex addicts tend to have many partners rather than a single affair. They crave sexual activities often. The habit of getting sex interferes in the normal functioning of a sex addict. For instance, it keeps him from going to work or taking care of the kids. Sex addicts continue doing what they do in spite of negative consequences, such as a broken relationship.
Getting Help For Sex Addiction
If you believe your husband’s cheating could be explained by an addiction, you need to talk to him about it. The next step would be to see a professional for a real diagnosis. Therapists who work with sex addicts and couples with infidelity issues will be able to decide if your husband really has an addictive problem. If he does, he needs to commit to treatment. Both of you need to engage in therapy, individually and together, in order to save your relationship. It is possible, but overcoming sex addiction and betrayal isn’t easy.
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