Continued from How the 12 Steps Heal Sex Addicts: Step One
Step 2: Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
An openness to the possibility that a higher power exists necessitates developing boundaries over an egoistic perception of reality. From a psychological developmental perspective, more immature levels of personality structure are egoistic in nature. All things seem related to oneself, a condition that prevents the individual from seeing others for who they really are. Rather, others are seen as extensions of oneself, making it impossible for the individual to have anything but a self-centered point of view.
The realization and acceptance of some power (it need not be religious or even spiritual) greater than one’s egoistic pursuits puts in motion the abandonment of a grandiose posture. One no longer expects the world to conform to one’s own needs and wants. Rather, one learns to live “life on life’s terms.”