No relationship is immune to the specter of infidelity. Even those that form in high school or college are vulnerable. Although you’re young, that doesn’t mean you don’t take your relationship commitments seriously. Cheating in a college relationship can be just as devastating as infidelity at any age. Still, students are a unique demographic with special considerations, and it is important to consider them.
College Student’s Guide To Infidelity & Relationships
Are You Exclusive?
One area in which young people may differ when it comes to their relationships is the definition of commitment. To be in an exclusive and committed relationship means that two people have to communicate their intentions. It takes a certain level of maturity to define the status of a relationship clearly. Not all young people in relationships do this well, and it can lead to misunderstandings. If you believe that your relationship is exclusive, but your boyfriend doesn’t, you could end up hurt and disappointed. Always communicate your feelings and expectations. If the two of you aren’t on the same page, at least you know now.
How Do You Define Infidelity?
It is also important that you understand and agree on what infidelity means. Do you consider flirting to be cheating? Is kissing someone else infidelity? What about relying on someone else for emotional support? Is that cheating? On this point you are in luck. Studies have shown that female and male college students are in agreement on what constitutes infidelity. Both agree that traditional acts of cheating count as infidelity, as well as those that involve technology.
Young people live their lives online more than ever these days, and it is important and encouraging to see that everyone agrees on what constitutes cheating. Even so, it is crucial that you and your partner come together to communicate your feelings about what is and isn’t cheating. Although most agree on most issues, everyone is an individual.
Why Does Anyone Cheat?
There are many theories and ideas to explain infidelity, from pure physical desire to evolutionary advantages. Among college students surveyed on the topic, there are gender differences. College-aged men tend to think that infidelity stems from sexual attraction. Men cite their main reason for cheating as simple temptation. They see someone desirable and decide to go for it.
College-aged women, on the other hand, have a different idea. They say that infidelity largely results from dissatisfaction with a relationship. If someone isn’t happy with his partner, whether that means being sexually, emotionally or in some other way unfulfilled, he will seek it elsewhere.
Should You Tolerate Infidelity?
This is an extremely personal question to consider, whether you are a young college student or a more mature and experienced adult. Many in the latter group would say that college relationships are frivolous, and that moving on from a cheating partner should be the obvious choice. This viewpoint doesn’t consider the fact that many college relationships grow into mature, lifelong commitments.
If you have experienced infidelity, whether or not you continue the relationship is up to the two of you. Trust is an important factor in a relationship, and if you feel that you can learn to trust him again, you can probably get past the cheating incident. If he betrays you multiple times and keeps asking for your trust back, you might be wise to deny it. Cheating is never easy to deal with. Whether you are in a new, college relationship or a long-term one, your pain is the same.
Respect Yourself & Respect Your Partner – Remember The Golden Rule & Be Honest.