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Candid Story Of Voyeurism Sexual Addiction

A young boy who once watched his mother get dressed is arrested as an adult for spying on his female neighbors. He finally begins therapy at age 27.

No one would have guessed that Ethan had been court-ordered to see a therapist. He was a charming, fun-loving and successful guy. But the 27-year-old graphic artist had been carrying a heavy secret that had roots in his childhood. It had begun in a rather harmless fashion; he could recall spying through the keyhole as a very young boy when his mother would dress and apply her makeup. He remembered pretending to be a secret agent on a mission, but the habit hadn’t stopped there.

When Innocence And Excitement Turned Into A Sexual Addiction

Peeping Child-Voyeurism Sexual Addiction-ItsCheating.comAt around 11, a family moved next door, and he spied through their windows in the evenings when their home was lit from within. The family had a daughter around his age, and as Ethan became a teenager, he would peer from his family’s attic rec room window down into their backyard as she and her friends sunbathed. This is when Ethan first recalls that his excitement for spying crossed over into the sexual, something he was ashamed to admit. He says after this, he soon began seeking out other houses, other windows.

When he was caught, it was red-handed. He knew the victim—a young woman who lived on the same street in a neighborhood of young professionals. His arrest occurred after there had been multiple complaints to police from women in the neighborhood. They’d discovered from the area under the woman’s bedroom window that Ethan had set up camp there for what looked to be multiple nights. He later admitted to having watched and recorded her for two years.

The most surprising thing was that Ethan was happily married. He was a handsome guy and had never been the type to struggle to date, but he’d confessed that the urge to spy on women was overwhelming for him and that, without it, he believed he couldn’t have a normal sex life. He said he needed the videos and memories he got from the experiences of these unsuspecting women or he felt he simply couldn’t perform with his wife. He seemed genuinely distressed about his problem and relieved to finally be caught.

What Is Voyeurism?

Voyeurism, sometimes referred to as the “peeping tom” disorder, is one of the better known behaviors in the group characterized as paraphilias, sexual arousal linked to stimuli that is not associated with typical sexual behavior. As a result, compulsive voyeurism is considered a psychosexual disorder, and as a paraphilia, is treated as a mental disorder. It occurs when a person has a sexual interest in secretly observing individuals, usually while they are engaged in intimate or private behaviors, such as undressing or while engaging in sexual behavior.

The person who is being observed usually is not aware they are being watched, which is a big part of what the voyeur (a person who has voyeurism) finds arousing. The voyeur is usually hidden from view or he or she may use hidden cameras to acquire video. Voyeurs may also frequent websites that host illicit footage of people acquired against their knowledge.

Symptoms Of Voyeurism

Signs that a person is experiencing the paraphilia known as voyeurism are:

  • Experiencing the urge to watch people undress or engage in sexual activity without their knowledge
  • Experiencing sexual arousal from watching people, without their knowledge, undress or engage in sexual activity
  • Needing to spy on unwitting individuals in order to achieve sexual excitement
  • Experiencing intense, recurring sexual fantasies and urges around watching someone undress, engage in sexual behavior or otherwise engage in private activity without knowledge they are being watched
  • The fantasies and urges last for at least six months
  • The urges and/or the behavior causes distress in your life

Voyeurism Is A Form Of Sexual Addiction

Voyeurism is about covert intrusion, meaning that voyeurs are unlikely to physically confront the people they spy on. Regardless, voyeurism can still feel highly invasive to victims. Voyeurism does not necessarily involve masturbation or orgasm. Voyeurs don’t always masturbate while spying on unsuspecting individuals, but may do so later while remembering the experience or watching footage they’ve secretly recorded.

Voyeurism is a compulsive sexual addiction. While the fantasies and experiences may be highly charged and exciting for voyeurs, they often lead to distress because the voyeur is unable to stop, even though he or she risks getting caught (or even after being caught).

The intense urges can also lead to sexual dysfunction, making it difficult to achieve sexual excitement or gratification in any other way. It is also common for voyeurs to begin to acquire a need for higher risk in order to achieve the same level of gratification. This makes voyeurism similar to pornography addiction and other forms of sex addiction.

Voyeurism Sexual Addiction Treatment

But just like other forms of sexual addiction, voyeurism can be treated. Individual therapy, group therapy, inpatient and outpatient treatment are all positive available methods where people just like Ethan are turning their lives around. It is possible to rewire even your most long-held urges and to return them again to simple memories—a boy playing secret agent, his whole life ahead of him.

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